The student's guide to Envy
written by team motivate md
why we wrote this guide
Let’s be honest… we all deal with some degree of academic envy… especially in medicine. It’s a highly competitive and stressful environment. It makes sense that you’d get frustrated when Suzy gets an MCAT score of 520. But it doesn’t have to be that way…
who this guide is for
Since we all have experience with jealousy, we can afford to learn some ways around it. And if you’re thinking “Not me, I’m happy for everyone that does well” then your day is coming where your patience will be tested. It’s better to be prepared than blindsided.
How much of this guide should you read?
It depends on how much you are currently struggling with jealousy. If it is a problem in your life then read the complete guide. If it’s something you aren’t dealing with then just read the headings then read further if you’re intrigued.
Always remember that there are thousands of students wishing that they were in your position. There are many reasons why someone wouldn’t be able to be a premed student, so don’t take it for granted. This becomes increasingly true as you become a medical student.
Also, there will always be somebody who is doing better than you, yet there will always be somebody who is doing worse than you. This statement isn’t supposed to make you feel superior or inferior. It’s supposed to give you some perspective on your situation. It’s very easy to get caught up in your head with comparisons. Any time you feel yourself going down this path, step back and gain some perspective.
We’ve established that there will always be someone who is doing better than you. This is actually a blessing because this is a person that you can learn from. What are they doing differently than you? Use these people to your advantage and ask them questions. 9 times out of 10 they will give you some insight into what they do to be where they are today.
Hint hint, people LOVE to talk about themselves so don’t be shy and give them an opportunity to explain their techniques and opinions.
There is a reason why you are in the position you are in. Say you didn’t get an interview invite to your dream program. Well, did you prepare enough? Did you do mock interviews and research on how to interview? I’m sure you were upset and blamed the interviewers plus 100 other things that happened. Instead, you should take a minute to think back on things you could have done better so you can crush your next interview.
At the end of the day you need to start taking responsibility for who and where you are in life. Accept what your weaknesses are and then improve. Let your weaknesses drive you to become better and grow everyday. The first step is acknowledgment.
These are only a few things amongst many that you can do to help combat jealousy. What have you done to help yourself get out of a jealous mindset? Let’s continue this conversation on our most recent @motivate_md instagram post.